I believe Christine Blassey-Ford’s account of Brett Kavanaugh sexually assaulting her when they were in high school. I am open to learning new information that suggests otherwise.
I also believe a healthier world is possible!
One where all people are of equal value, have the skills to communicate respectfully and share power in relationships. Mutuality and boundaries will vary, but respect will be constant.
In order to create such a world, we need a vision of what it might look like along with effective ways to develop ‘soft’ skills like self-reflection, ownership, perspective-taking, attentive listening, and empathy. These are hard skills to practice because they require emotional maturity, behavioral change, a culture that supports them, and safe opportunities to practice with others. I’ve learned a lot of these kinds of skills through individual work in therapy and playing with others in improv classes.
A parallel planet somewhere where humans are more evolved than we are right now. Here, Brett Kavanaugh has gained insight into his own emotional injuries and alcohol use through psycotherapy and Alcoholics Anonymous. He has come to realize he has hurt many people in his life and wants to make amends. He pieces together memories and admits to himself, his therapist and his wife that he assaulted Christine Blassey-Ford when they were in High School.
He is learning how to express himself and listen more respectfully in therapy. He is taking applied improv classes to help him to practice . With support of his therapist and wife he has decided to contact Dr. Ford and to admit his behavior and apologize. He knows must take this step if he is to be a healthy husband, father, and Judge.
Kavanaugh writes a letter.
Dear Dr. Ford,
I am writing to you today with a heavy heart and a great deal of shame. I am sure you remember, probably better than I do, that day when I assaulted you in a bedroom at that party in the summer of 1982. Mark Judge was there and we were both very drunk. We were laughing when I pinned you on the bed, groping you and trying to take off your clothes with one hand and covering your mouth to keep you from screaming with the other. I can’t remember how you got away and can only imagine how scared you must have been. You were younger and smaller than me. It must have been terrifying for you and I am so so sorry. I can’t begin to imagine the physical and emotional pain I caused you.
If there is anything I can do to help decrease the pain I must have caused and may still be causing today, I want to try. I will answer any questions you have and try to help you understand my horrific behavior as I have come to in therapy. I will listen if there is a way that feels safe to you. With police, your husband, or any support you need present? Or read anything that you would want to share. I don’t know if you can ever forgive me. I terrorized you and will understand if you do not want to interact with me in any way. I do know that I will work very hard to earn some kind of forgiveness. I am afraid of a criminal complaint, but if you decided to file one, I won’t fight it. I have two daughters and as father I cannot fathom how something like what I did to you might impact them.
Words are not enough for the remorse I feel about what I did to you.
Sigh….human evolution is a slow process!
And to those of us involved in furthering the efforts of applied improv and other ways of nurturing humanity, let’s keep going! Fight for truth and justice here and now, take care of ourselves, and contribute to a healthier world whenever we can!